The 5 Truth Bombs About Having Babies Back to Back (+ tips!)
I wanted to share my favourite bible verse that no matter what you believe in, I think we can all agree:
Children are a blessing and a gift from the Lord.
If you know me personally, you will have heard my high highs, and low lows.
You will have heard the numerous blessings, and insane plummets in life.
And yet, no matter what, I couldn’t have asked for a better or different life.
Here are my 5 main truth bombs when it comes to having babies back to back!
Best friends will change your entire perspective on parenting.
Having best friends who are in the same season of life as you, or have experienced it, you can truly unfold everything in life.
The struggles, successes, challenges, wins, loses, problems, solutions, growth…
There is nothing better than being able to cozy in on our favourite couch, throw an afghan over you, a cup of beige coffee in hand, and let the kids run wild while you chit chat. This has helped me remain strong, grow from the difficult times, and have a hand picked support system in place!
You will gain an insane amount of knowledge.
Replaying the same stage of life over and over and over… But with a slight twist: a new baby and an older toddler.
Since your experiences are replayed so close together, I found it incredibly easy to reflect on what didn’t work, what could have worked, and what absolutely worked. I have now been a “go- to” advice mom for so many women who need an experienced opinion.
The most humbling life experience has been having children so close together.
Infants, toddlers, and young children are the most grace giving, forgiving individuals I have ever met.
On the days that I am extremely far from being a good mom, they still greet me with a joyful face and positive attitude. I could not be anymore grateful to have been brought the opportunity to becoming a mom of so many kids so quickly.
Let’s be real.
Dishes pile up.
Laundry is unfolded.
Kids cry in sync.
There is never time alone.
Coffee is always cold.
There is an endless to do list.
It gets overwhelming, fast. I have never been so understanding of other peoples circumstances until experiencing life as a mom of 2 under 2, and soon to be 3 under 3.
If you don’t have some sort of routine, you need one.
I need a routine for myself AND the kiddos! I have a routine that saves me so much anger and overwhelm:
Wake up minimum 1 hour before the kids
Instantly make my favourite tea or coffee to drink it hot in silence
Turn on a podcast that will help you grow your mindset + perspective, while being encouraged so the next task is more fun!
Make a list of 3 to- do’s that will brighten your day. I always choose a quick kitchen tidy, respond to emails, and dishes! If I’m lucky, I will even start a load of laundry.
I will hop in the shower, and get ready! I pick out my clothes the day before
Set up + prep breakfast.
I am telling you, doing this every single day, you will 9/10 have the most perfect day in the entire world. You got 3 big to- do’s out of the way, spent time alone, and have prepared for a smoother day!
For the kids, I really stick to consistent nap + bed times; meals + snack times; and when we run our errands. We never do anything exactly off the clock, but we stick to a loose schedule.
Sure, life feels busy and chaotic, but what is one more?
I catch myself thinking multiple times a day:
What is another 3 kids, honestly?
I am about to have our 3rd, what is having 7 kids, really?
I am sure adopting 800 more children would fit right in to our home.
Think about how amazing it would be to have a school bus filled with our kiddos.
We seriously adore big + loving families, and aspire to be like that one day!
Natural health saved me… here are my tips on how and why!
remineralize + nutrition
I focused so heavily during my pregnancies + postpartum periods to ensure I was constantly eating real foods that were high in minerals + vitamins to ensure bone, body, and teeth remineralization. (Vitamin A, D, E, K and minerals: iron, magnesium, calcium
You will hear me say repeatedly: I feel like my teeth are going to fall out.
Ladies. I know having babies close and back to back can be difficult financially. This means not always eating 100% organic, natural, non- GMO, and whole foods. I encourage to try your hardest, but know that fed is quite literally best.
You will hear multiple people claiming that they sell a product that helps with detoxing. The real detoxing is through your liver and intestines/ bowels. I know, super sexy.
Your liver is what stores excess hormones, toxins, and the “junk” that you want to get out of your body! I usually take milk thistle or dandelion capsules or tea!
When you detox your liver, you need to also do the same to your intestines! Bentonite pulls out the toxins, excess hormones, and essentially “junk” out of your body. If you do not do this step, everything that you detox out of your liver will just be reabsorbed in your excretory system.
(note: I get ALL of my products from a natural health food store. You will also want to take magnesium if you do this detox, as bentonite can constipate you. It holds 15-20x it’s weight in water!)
(disclaimer: I am not a doctor, or licensed professional. There are plenty of resources confirming this. I recommend a naturopath to evaluate what minerals and vitamins you are deficient in, and confirm this detox!)
red raspberry leaf
I wrote an article: My Biggest Tips to Successfully Breastfeed that talks all about red raspberry leaf tea!
My favourite herb to take while being a woman with periods, hormones, experienced pregnancy, breastfeeding, and postpartum is: red raspberry leaf.
Red raspberry leaf tones and tightens the uterine line, helps balance hormones, prepares the uterus for pregnancy AND labour, boost fertility, relief of nausea, factually helps reduce interventions with birth, factually related to shorter birth length, helps with digestion, and is nutrient dense in the goods.
Vitamins: B + C; Minerals: magnesium, iron, zinc, phosphorus
Interesting excerpt from a great website: Red raspberry leaves contain polyphenols like tannins and flavonoids, which act as antioxidants in your body and can help protect cells from damage. In addition, the leaves contain small amounts of ellagic acids, which have been shown to neutralize carcinogens and even contribute to the self-destruction of cancer cells.
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